Dating Tips From The Prophets And Apostles

Dating Tips From The Prophets And Apostles

Whether you like it or not, you get dating advice from everyone. My personal favorite is when a single person gives me advice on finding a wife… I think to myself “hows that working for you?”

But then there are some people that you respect, and when they give advice you follow it. I can not think of any group I respect more than the Apostles, so I started to search for dating advice from the Prophets and Apostles. I was shocked with all the advice I found! Here are some dating tips from the Prophets and Apostles.

 

  • Be the Wife/Husband they are looking for. 

 

“When you find you are developing an interest in a young woman, show her that you are an exceptional person that she would find interesting to know better. Take her to places that are worthwhile. Show some ingenuity. If you want to have a wonderful wife, you need to have her see you as a wonderful man and prospective husband.”
~Elder Richard G. Scott.

 

  • Discipleship

 

“Be a true disciple of Jesus. Be a genuine, committed, word-and-deed Latter-day Saint. Believe that your faith has everything to do with your romance, because it does. You separate dating from discipleship at your peril. Jesus Christ, the Light of the World, is the only lamp by which you can successfully see the path of love and happiness.”
~Elder Jeffrey R. Holland.

 

  • Look for the things that “really matter”. 

“Do not expect perfection in your choice of a mate. Do not be so concerned about his physical appearance and his bank account that you overlook his more important qualities. Of course, he should be attractive to you, and he should be able to financially provide for you. But, does he have a strong testimony? Does he live the principles of the gospel and magnify his priesthood? Is he active in his ward and stake? Does he love home and family, and will he be a faithful husband and a good father? These are qualities that really matter.”

Ezra Taft Benson

 

  • Ask her with your voice.

 

“Don’t text her! Use your own voice to introduce yourself to the righteous daughters of God who are all around you. To actually hear a human voice will shock her—perhaps into saying yes.”
~Elder M. Russell Ballard

"Don’t text her! Use your own voice to introduce yourself to the righteous daughters of God who are all around you. To actually hear a human voice will shock her—perhaps into saying yes." ~Elder M. Russell Ballard

 

  • “When you date, learn everything you can about each other.”

 

“Dating is the opportunity for lengthy conversations. When you date, learn everything you can about each other. Get to know each other’s families when possible. Are your goals compatible? Do you share the same feelings about the commandments, the Savior, the priesthood, the temple, parenting, callings in the Church, and serving others? Have you observed one another under stress, responding to success and failure, resisting anger, and dealing with setbacks? Does the person you are dating tear others down or build them up? Is his or her attitude and language and conduct what you would like to live with every day?”
~Elder Robert D. Hales

 

  • The myth of “soul mates”

 

“‘Soul mates’ are fiction and an illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price”
~President Spencer W. Kimball

“‘Soul mates’ are fiction and an illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price” ~President Spencer W. Kimball

 

 

  • Learn each others faults.

 

“He must make sure that he has found the girl of his choice, they have gone together long enough that they know each other, and that they know each other’s faults and they still love each other”

~President Harold B. Lee

 

  • Treat your date with respect.

 

“In dating, treat your date with respect, and expect your date to show that same respect for you. Tears inevitably follow transgression. Men, take care not to make women weep, for God counts their tears.” ~President Thomas S. Monson

"In dating, treat your date with respect, and expect your date to show that same respect for you. Tears inevitably follow transgression. Men, take care not to make women weep, for God counts their tears." ~President Thomas S. Monson

 

 

  • Seek the Lord’s confirmation.

 

“Now, brethren, do not expect perfection in your choice of a mate. Do not be so particular that you overlook her most important qualities of having a strong testimony, living the principles of the gospel, loving home, wanting to be a mother in Zion, and supporting you in your priesthood responsibilities. Of course, she should be attractive to you, but do not just date one girl after another for the sole pleasure of dating without seeking the Lord’s confirmation in your choice of your eternal companion”
~President Ezra Taft Benson

 

 

  • Sisters, you won’t find perfection.

 

“This includes young women who are still in school or who are working. You are single. You are hoping to catch that perfect man. I have yet to see one who is perfect. Aim high, but do not aim so high that you totally miss the target. What really matters is that he will love you, that he will respect you, that he will honor you, that he will be absolutely true to you, that he will give you freedom of expression and let you fly in the development of your own talents. He is not going to be perfect, but if he is kind and thoughtful, if he knows how to work and earn a living, if he is honest and full of faith, the chances are that you will not go wrong, that you will be immensely happy.” ~Gordon B. Hinckley

 

“This includes young women who are still in school or who are working. You are single. You are hoping to catch that perfect man. I have yet to see one who is perfect. Aim high, but do not aim so high that you totally miss the target. What really matters is that he will love you, that he will respect you, that he will honor you, that he will be absolutely true to you, that he will give you freedom of expression and let you fly in the development of your own talents. He is not going to be perfect, but if he is kind and thoughtful, if he knows how to work and earn a living, if he is honest and full of faith, the chances are that you will not go wrong, that you will be immensely happy.” ~Gordon B. Hinckley

 

  • Date someone that inspires you.

 

“One good yardstick as to whether a person might be the right one for you is this: in her presence, do you think your noblest thoughts, do you aspire to your finest deeds, do you wish you were better than you are?”
~President Ezra Taft Benson

“One good yardstick as to whether a person might be the right one for you is this: in her presence, do you think your noblest thoughts, do you aspire to your finest deeds, do you wish you were better than you are?” ~President Ezra Taft Benson

 

  • Have a good time!

 

“You can have a good time. Of course you can! We want you to have fun. We want you to enjoy life. We do not want you to be prudes. We want you to be robust and cheerful, to sing and dance, to laugh and be happy.”
~President Gordon B. Hinckley

 

  • Be the kind of person you want to marry.

“Your responsibility now is to be worthy of the person you want to marry. If you want to marry a wholesome, attractive, honest, happy, hardworking, spiritual person, be that kind of person. If you are that person and you are not married, be patient. Wait upon the Lord. I testify that the Lord knows your desires and loves you for your faithful devotion to Him. He has a plan for you, whether it be in this life or the next.”
~Elder Robert D. Hales
If you want to marry a wholesome, attractive, honest, happy, hardworking, spiritual person, be that kind of person. ~Elder Robert D. Hales

 

  • Girls use less makeup.

 

“Boys seldom criticize a girl for using too little makeup. Sometimes they say, ‘She’s a nice girl, but I wish she’d dress up, and she uses too much makeup.’ To be overdressed, to be gaudily dressed, to be dressed to look sexy, to be overdecorated is bad taste, to say the least. The young woman is smart who can don just enough powder and lipstick to convince the fellows it isn’t makeup at all, but the ‘real you.”
~President Spencer W. Kimball

 

  • Open doors.

 

“Do not hesitate to show your good manners by opening a door for them, taking the initiative in inviting them on a date, and standing as they enter a room. Believe it or not, in this age of equal rights, the young women want you to extend these simple courtesies”
~Elder M. Russell Ballard

 

  • Attributes are polished as Husband and Wife.

 

“I suggest that you not ignore many possible candidates who are still developing these attributes, seeking the one who is perfected in them. You will likely not find that perfect person, and if you did, there would certainly be no interest in you. These attributes are best polished together as husband and wife.”
~Elder Richard G. Scott

"I suggest that you not ignore many possible candidates who are still developing these attributes, seeking the one who is perfected in them. You will likely not find that perfect person, and if you did, there would certainly be no interest in you. These attributes are best polished together as husband and wife." ~Elder Richard G. Scott

 

 

  • Find your style.

 

“Young men should keep their faces shaved, their hair combed, their haircuts reasonably conservative, their nails cleaned. Overtight, suggestive pants brand young men as vulgar. Young people can be smart and personable, dignified and attractive by finding an area somewhere less than the extremes and still in good style”
~President Spencer W. Kimball

 

 

  • The most important thing.

 

“the most important single thing that any Latter-day Saint ever does in this world is to marry the right person in the right place by the right authority”
~ Elder Bruce R. McConkie

“the most important single thing that any Latter-day Saint ever does in this world is to marry the right person in the right place by the right authority” ~ Elder Bruce R. McConkie

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  2. All of them are common sense, If you want to attract a good person, be a good person.
    Find people of like minds, join a group or activity you enjoy and that person May be there for the same reason,
    Mostly trust in our Lord to put you life mate in your life at the right time.

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  4. if you want intimacy you need 4 things and in the CORRECT order
    those who want Intimacy must do the HARD WORK of
    > relational intimacy (you are in proximity and have common friends and family)
    > emotional intimacy( you share happy and sad events and get to know their PERSONALITY)
    > spiritual intimacy (you don’t force someone to pray for you/ you are with a person whose habit is to pray/ shared community of beliefs)
    . AFTER MARRIAGE
    > physical intimacy…. you grow with this person and know that what is preferable in one situation might not be ever again/ like learning to play a rare Stradivarius Violin/ you don’t presume that what one person makes music will make music for all <3

    when these things are done in this sequence, you will find INTIMACY…. getting any of them out of order…. well, then you take what you get!

  5. ““Young men should keep their faces shaved”

    Using obscure quotes, often not given in official settings, from past prophets that support this or that style or habit is not good practice. It is often not intended as a general rule, or was specific to a time or group to whom it was given and may be subject to change (you can go back further in the past and find counsel from general authorities that even missionaries SHOULD have beards). I suspect this advice may have been given to “young men” under 18. Regardless, being clean shaven isn’t prophetic counsel for LDS men today, if it ever was. Don’t be a scrub, but having a nicely groomed beard or goatee (or even the few days’ stubble look if you can pull it off) is not sin, or unstylish. There is no official counsel from our current prophets on men being bearded vs. clean shaven as a general rule.

    I have had facial hair off and on since my mission, and have gotten far more attention from LDS women with a full beard (it makes me look older instead of displaying my baby face), and a lot of that attention has come specifically because of the beard. I shaved when I was working at the temple, but other than that I prefer to have facial hair. I like my look better with it. It is neither sinful, nor the reason I’m not married. (I was married in my 20’s and consistently had facial hair back then.) It’s never been a deal breaker in a relationship, quite the contrary in fact. Every woman I’ve dated has been good with it, or even preferred me having facial hair. Some women like a clean shaven man–to each their own. But casting it as if the prophet has called on every man to shave is inaccurate. It’s not a priesthood duty.

    • Josh these quotes were all from general conference as advice, not commandments. But let me just say 80% of Mormons who try to grow facial hair look homeless. (Myself included). My personal opinion on this topic is neatly trimmed or clean shaven.